Most of us want to be loved, treasured and appreciated. Most of us wish to express these same feelings toward our partners. To successfully communicate our love we need to express it in the way our partners will understand. It is as though we have to learn the language of our partner. When we learn our partner’s love language we...[ read more ]
You are looking for a marriage counselor and you are not sure how to discern who can really help you. You may have heard of EFT, Solution Focused, Gottman and PACT, but you are not sure how they differ and how you can benefit from each style of therapy. Gottman Marriage Counseling may be more effective, depending on your needs....[ read more ]
What You Can Learn About Your Partner by Just Learning their Attachment Styles Attachment styles develop in childhood due to the interaction between the child and caregiver. That interaction will forever impact your life and your relationship. Your style of relating to your partner is shaped by that interaction, so learning about the styles of bonding and connecting will prepare...[ read more ]
Marriage In Trouble? How To Decide Between Couples Therapy vs. Individual Therapy You are fighting, yelling and arguing about everything. You can’t agree on anything and are tired of having the same fights over and over again. You may be asking yourself, “Is my marriage in trouble?” What are the benefits of couples therapy vs. individual therapy? Where do you...[ read more ]
Why Do We Keep Having The Same Arguments? You want to have a conversation with your partner and feel heard and listened, but it always degenerates into the same arguments. You may have tried talking calmly, you’ve tried yelling, and you even may have tried the silent treatment. You feel stuck. You are tired of asking yourself, “Why do we...[ read more ]
Sometimes you might wonder why your friends’ marital relationships appear so happy. They seem never to argue. The key word is seem. The fact that we are privy to a couple’s arguments does not mean they never express disagreement. Your question, “Is it normal for couples to argue?” makes it necessary to address the issue of what is normal. What...[ read more ]
What Causes Resentment? You may ask yourself, “What causes resentment?” or “Why am I feeling resentful?”. No one likes to be taken for granted, feel unappreciated or devalued, but if your partner does something that causes you to feel that way, you may feel resentful. You expect that your spouse will cherish and care for you, but when you find...[ read more ]
No one likes to feel unappreciated or invalidated, but you might be asking yourself, "Does that mean I resent my partner?" or "What does it mean to resent someone?" When you are wronged, discriminated against, unrecognized, unappreciated, taken for granted, taken advantage of or devalued resentment towards the other person can develop. Resentment festers inside you when you believe a...[ read more ]
Let’s say you're thinking about asking your partner for something you want, do you shy away or do you speak your mind? If you do not ask for what you want, do you wait until he thinks of it or do you berate him for not knowing what you want? When you speak your mind or share your thoughts, feelings...[ read more ]
If you have been fighting with your partner, you might be asking yourself, “why do we fight all the time? or “why are we fighting over the same little things all the time?” On a daily basis, couples contact me because they are concerned about how often they fight and have many fears about how often they miscommunicate. During the...[ read more ]
