You want to have a conversation with your partner and feel heard and listened, but it always degenerates into the same arguments. You may have tried talking calmly, you’ve tried yelling, and you even may have tried the silent treatment. You feel stuck. You are tired of asking yourself, “Why do we keep having the same arguments?” The result of...[ read more ]
Sometimes you might wonder why your friends’ marital relationships appear so happy. They seem never to argue. The key word is seem. The fact that we are privy to a couple’s arguments does not mean they never express disagreement. Your question, “Is it normal for couples to argue?” makes it necessary to address the issue of what is normal. What...[ read more ]
What Causes Resentment? You may ask yourself, “What causes resentment?” or “Why am I feeling resentful?”. No one likes to be taken for granted, feel unappreciated or devalued, but if your partner does something that causes you to feel that way, you may feel resentful. You expect that your spouse will cherish and care for you, but when you find...[ read more ]
No one likes to feel unappreciated or invalidated, but you might be asking yourself, "Does that mean I resent my partner?" or "What does it mean to resent someone?" When you are wronged, discriminated against, unrecognized, unappreciated, taken for granted, taken advantage of or devalued resentment towards the other person can develop. Resentment festers inside you when you believe a...[ read more ]
Let’s say you're thinking about asking your partner for something you want, do you shy away or do you speak your mind? If you do not ask for what you want, do you wait until he thinks of it or do you berate him for not knowing what you want? When you speak your mind or share your thoughts, feelings...[ read more ]
If you have been fighting with your partner, you might be asking yourself, “why do we fight all the time? or “why are we fighting over the same little things all the time?” On a daily basis, couples contact me because they are concerned about how often they fight and have many fears about how often they miscommunicate. During the...[ read more ]
Learn how to stop the arguments before they escalate. Conflict resolution strategies for relationships are now important more than ever. In January 2020, when you were making your New Year’s Resolutions about your life and relationship, you probably never thought that you would be stuck inside with your partner for a couple of months and be ready to call it...[ read more ]
Since COVID-19 and stay at home orders started, your life and your relationship probably changed in many dramatic ways; some changes are for the better and well, some changes might have not been beneficial to your relationship. After quarantine, many couples are wondering how to nurture and continue their closeness when they return to their office all day. We Feel...[ read more ]
During these unprecedented times, we are stuck in our homes for an undetermined amount of time with our partners, spending more hours with them than ever before. We might have always wished for extra time with a partner, but I’m guessing no one imagined it would be spent under “stay at home” orders due to a global pandemic. Recently I’ve...[ read more ]
Every new year brings new and renewed resolutions and commitments to our work, school, family, and self. We are excited by the thought of what this year can bring. Frequently, we wonder about what new possibilities and opportunities will arise in 2020. As we reflect on our lives, we reflect on our relationships, too. Some people begin the new year...[ read more ]
